Melissa Auf der Maur, Dave Grohl’s ex-girlfriend from a few years till the beginning of the 2000s, told SiriusXM about their relationship and why it had to end. Melissa began at the beginning: “We had a lovely love affair… We were both infatuated with rock music and the power of music, and we were both non-drug addicts, technically happy, and highly functional people. So we were quite similar, and I believe that our jobs in Hole and Nirvana subconsciously drove us together.
” Melissa recounted the turning point in their relationship when they split up in 2001, adding: “I was just leaving Hole and entering this farewell finale tour with The Smashing Pumpkins, Dave was just rising up with the Foo Fighters, we had this beautiful compatible couple of years we were madly in love, but we also really recognized the turning point we were both at, as ’90s musicians who started very young in our small, cool hometowns in Montreal and D.C.” And it was all love when we split up in 2001. ‘I love you, and I want you to do what you want to do, and you love me, and you want me to go…”
The former bassist described the split as a result of affection for one another’s various aspirations and desires in life by sharing: “I wanted to get away from the monstrous corporate hell that had become our music scene, and he wasn’t done yet and had some more proving, ambitions, or business to do.” ‘Don’t you want to simply settle down into a cool art environment in D.C. or Montreal and just be humans?’ I recall saying. His passion and drive were not.
We both got what we wanted 20 years later: he became the biggest rock star in the world, while I became a small-town art factory hero.” Melissa lives in Hudson, New York, with her husband, director Tony Stone, their 11-year-old daughter River, and their nonprofit multidisciplinary art center Basilica Hudson, while Grohl recently released Foo Fighters’ 11th studio album ‘But Here We Are’ and is now on tour. You may listen to ‘But Here We Are’ and watch the SiriusXM interview tape below.